The workbook lesson from A Course in Miracles which states, “Whatever suffers is not part of me”, may sound like a heartless statement. Actually, it does not deny the feelings we have, in favor of a hardness which excludes emotion. On the contrary! It expresses a pure Love which allows us to pass through the hard times, with a firm understanding of the beauty of Truth. Losing a loved one is difficult in many ways, but I feel that the myths we have concocted surrounding death do more harm than good. We say things like, God took her to be with him because she was so good. What lies we tell ourselves in the name of kindness! As we begin to understand divine reality, we are able to let loose the stories we tell ourselves, in favor of the Truth which sets us free. I'll always remember reading the story of the woman who loved Kahlil Gibran, "Beloved Prophet". One part tells of how she sat at his funeral, with a smile on her face. When asked how she could do such a thing she replied that she had never felt closer to him. Eternal Life — never born, never dying -- Life eternal.
“A blundering dispatch, mistakenly announcing the death of a friend, occasions the same grief that the friend's real death would bring. You think that your anguish is occasioned by your loss. Another dispatch, correcting the mistake, heals your grief, and you learn that your suffering was merely the result of your belief. Thus it is with all sorrow, sickness, and death. You will learn at length that there is no cause for grief, and divine wisdom will then be understood. Error, not Truth, produces all the suffering on earth.”
Mary Baker Eddy - Science & Health Page 386:16-25
“I have disowned the truth. Now let me be as faithful in disowning falsity. Whatever suffers is not part of me. What grieves is not myself. ⁵What is in pain is but illusion in my mind. What dies was never living in reality, and did but mock the truth about myself. Now I disown self-concepts and deceits and lies about the holy Son of God. Now am I ready to accept him back as God created him, and as he is.
“Father, my ancient love for You returns, and lets me love Your Son again as well. Father, I am as You created me. Now is Your Love remembered, and my own. Now do I understand that they are one.”
A Course in Miracles W-248.1:1–2:4